The WANT Thread

[.RJ]

I want a small, cheap wedding but I know I'm not going to get it. She wants both of our extended families and a large group of friends there and I don't think she realizes how many zeros that sticker is gonna have on it.

Fuck it, I'm going to Vegas

[WRXtranceformed]

The good news is that guys wedding bands are dirt cheap. Don't buy that in a jewelry store. I got my Tungsten band with a carbon fiber insert for $20 on Amazon. Carbon adds 5 hp

[G.Irish]

Same deal with wedding's being a waste of money.....you only do it once, so why not ball out within you means?

Because rationally speaking, most people spend irrational money on weddings. It becomes an emotional spend on a lot of fronts so fiscal responsibility often goes out the window.

Then there's the fact that the whole industry built around weddings knows they can put the screws to couples because in the end they're not thinking rationally and will spend the money anyway. Want to rent this hotel space for a conference? $3000. For a wedding? $6000, and you must use our bartenders, chair movers, alcohol, bathroom attendants, seat cushion fluffers, napkin folders, etc.

For the price a lot of people are paying for a wedding they could make a sizable downpayment on a nice ass beach house/condo in the tropics that they could enjoy for the rest of their lives and pass on to their children.

If you can define a budget up front that is reasonable and doesn't require borrowing a bunch of money or emptying out retirement savings to do it, then have that ball-within-your-means wedding. It's just that a lot of people have a really tough time doing that.

[Goodspeed]

^ what G said. Also, I have no problems with how people choose to get married, go to the courthouse or rent a private island, it's your money. I just don't like entire industries that are built around making you feel guilty or inferior that are full of dubious charges - you know it and they know it. It's just an odd part of our culture when you stand back and look at it, you have to be so fiscally responsible now more than ever, but wedding? F that noise, overspend city baby!

For the record I'm not calling out any MM'er weddings I've been to, those have all been down to earth good times.

[SlimKlim]

If you guys are following the tradition (Wife's parent pay for wedding, Groom's parents cover rehearsal)......its a conversation you and her need to have with her parents, that will set some guidelines real fast.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Even if her parents had money they certainly wouldn't spend it to marry their beautiful daughter off to a filthy atheist sinner like me. Her dad won't even walk her down the aisle if she doesn't marry a fundamentalist Christian. My reputation with them is already in the shitter because we live together in unwed sin. My dad will probably help out, but I'd expect only a little, he's not just sitting around on mad money to give me when I tie the knot as far as I know. The vast majority of the costs will be on us.

On the engagement ring discussion....

Am I the only one who actually looked forward to buying an engagement ring so I could propose to my future wife and didn't think twice about spending that kind of money? I actually wish I could have afforded more.

Set a realistic cost goal, determine what payments you can make if financing, and buy the best thing you can afford.

Most of the bitching about buying engagement rings is coming from people who aren't married though so I will assume ignorance.

Same deal with wedding's being a waste of money.....you only do it once, so why not ball out within you means?

Im not stressing about the cost (well, much) I have a budget in mind that I'm comfortable spending and I'm gonna get the best rock I can for the money. I just don't want to finance it because I need another monthly payment like I need a hole in the head, so I'm gonna wait until I can plop down the cash.

The wedding thing, I'd just rather put that money towards a honeymoon/house downpayment. I know it will be an amazing day and a really memorable experience for the family (maybe memorable in the wrong way for certain members) but it's just painful to think about spending five-figures on ONE DAY.

[Goodspeed]

The wedding thing, I'd just rather put that money towards a honeymoon/house downpayment. I know it will be an amazing day and a really memorable experience for the family (maybe memorable in the wrong way for certain members) but it's just painful to think about spending five-figures on ONE DAY.

Blame Disney/Seventeen/bridal mags/culture for brainwashing our female population into propping up a $51 billion industry. It probably evens out however, given our male population is brainwashed by cars, sports, and impotent rage meds.

[Jewels]

Ok, I just want someone to get married and invite me to their wedding. I really want to drink your free booze. Where the fuck is Kaan on this? Damnit Kaan, when are you getting married. I mean I come over to your house and drink your free booze anyway, but you most recently spent some coin on an engagement ring, enlighten us. Or did you buy it in Turkey for cheap?

[G.Irish]

It probably evens out however, given our male population is brainwashed by cars, sports, and impotent rage meds.

True. I was just thinking about the massive amounts of money people lose to depreciation when they buy expensive new cars. Bought a 2006 Cayenne Turbo new? You lost like $70,000 in deprecation hock:

[V1GiLaNtE]

It probably evens out however, given our male population is brainwashed by cars, sports, and impotent rage meds.

True. I was just thinking about the massive amounts of money people lose to depreciation when they buy expensive new cars. Bought a 2006 Cayenne Turbo new? You lost like $70,000 in deprecation hock:

Da fuq? :vomit:

[CaptainHenreh]

This thread turned in a direction I can relate.

So yeah, call me crazy, but I bought Julie a single (very small, I might add) diamond and that's the only diamond she'll ever get, period. It's a racket, it's bullshit, and I refuse to participate. Any other gemstone, fucking name it, but diamonds aren't even rare and most cuts aren't particularly striking! In fact, the only diamond purchase that got a [obama]notbad[/obama] from me was a friend of mine who had his diamond custom grown in a lab. At least then you're paying for someone's expertise for an absolutely unique stone...rather than some cartel with a stranglehold on the crystalline form of the 6th most common element in the whole goddam 'verse.

Weddings are another racket too. You want a memorable wedding? One that's meaningful and rich and a true celebration of the lifelong commitment you're making with another person? Let Uncle Rex Tell you How!

Step 1: Rent a park. Yes, an outdoor wedding. Rain is good luck, and if the people love you, they'll catcall your kiss rain or shine. And if they don't fuck 'em.

Step 2: Keep your ceremony short. Recite personal, heartfelt vows, and mean them.

Step 3: Immediately after ceremony, send your guests away to the other side of the park where there is kegs of cold beer and a hundred bottles of cold, inexpensive (but not shitty) wine. Don't tell me there's no such thing. Just get something this side of boones farm and make sure there's plenty. Food should start cooking at this point, so it'll be done and ready to serve the minute you guys get done with your pictures.

Step 4: Take your goddam pictures, and take as long as you like. Find someone who, again, cares about you to take them. Your guests, who are there because they love you, are getting shitfaced. And if they don't love you during the ceremony, they'll sure as shit love you 4 beers in. And if they still don't, fuck 'em.

Step 5: Have fun. I firmly believe that having the very first minute of your marriage be a somber, dull, stiff necked affair is going to set the tone for the rest of that institution. You're making a promise before The Almighty God or Krishna or Allah or the Cold Vastness of Space that during the rest of that tiny ephemeral spark that is our lives you'll love and laugh and labor with that other person...how do you want to spend that time? Dour and lemonfaced or laughing and singing and dancing and loving?

Spend your fucking money on people, not a ring or a building or a dress or a venue.

[JustinG]

Step 1: Rent a park. Yes, an outdoor wedding. Rain is good luck, and if the people love you, they'll catcall your kiss rain or shine. And if they don't fuck 'em.

Step 2: Keep your ceremony short. Recite personal, heartfelt vows, and mean them.

Step 3: Immediately after ceremony, send your guests away to the other side of the park where there is kegs of cold beer and a hundred bottles of cold, inexpensive (but not shitty) wine. Don't tell me there's no such thing. Just get something this side of boones farm and make sure there's plenty. Food should start cooking at this point, so it'll be done and ready to serve the minute you guys get done with your pictures.

Step 4: Take your goddam pictures, and take as long as you like. Find someone who, again, cares about you to take them. Your guests, who are there because they love you, are getting shitfaced. And if they don't love you during the ceremony, they'll sure as shit love you 4 beers in. And if they still don't, fuck 'em.

Step 5: Have fun. I firmly believe that having the very first minute of your marriage be a somber, dull, stiff necked affair is going to set the tone for the rest of that institution. You're making a promise before The Almighty God or Krishna or Allah or the Cold Vastness of Space that during the rest of that tiny ephemeral spark that is our lives you'll love and laugh and labor with that other person...how do you want to spend that time? Dour and lemonfaced or laughing and singing and dancing and loving?

Pretty much sums up my wedding.

Except replace park with Church and otherside of park with community center.

[CaptainHenreh]

I only said park because they're cheap. If you can get a pretty church for cheap, go for it. But most churches these days aren't pretty, and the venue should be pretty.

[WRXtranceformed]

I feel you. I paid for 99.5% of our wedding, receptions and honeymoon. Thank God I married a woman who knows how to find good deals on everything and cared more about our marriage than the day we got married. We balled on a budget and everything was perfect. Definitely smart to spend your money on the honeymoon... You will remember that more

[Ken]

If you guys are following the tradition (Wife's parent pay for wedding, Groom's parents cover rehearsal)......its a conversation you and her need to have with her parents, that will set some guidelines real fast.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Can you just try, anyway, just for my own amusement?

[.RJ]

I'm blowing all that money on a honeymoon

[SlimKlim]

^ Might as well try to make a soup sandwich. Shit is a non-starter. If they offered to help in anyway I'd be so shocked you knock me down with a feather. I AM NOT happy with her father after the wont-walk-her-down-the-aisle comment, but that's an entirely different conversation.

This thread turned in a direction I can relate.

So yeah, call me crazy, but I bought Julie a single (very small, I might add) diamond and that's the only diamond she'll ever get, period. It's a racket, it's bullshit, and I refuse to participate. Any other gemstone, fucking name it, but diamonds aren't even rare and most cuts aren't particularly striking! In fact, the only diamond purchase that got a [obama]notbad[/obama] from me was a friend of mine who had his diamond custom grown in a lab. At least then you're paying for someone's expertise for an absolutely unique stone...rather than some cartel with a stranglehold on the crystalline form of the 6th most common element in the whole goddam 'verse.

Weddings are another racket too. You want a memorable wedding? One that's meaningful and rich and a true celebration of the lifelong commitment you're making with another person? Let Uncle Rex Tell you How!

Step 1: Rent a park. Yes, an outdoor wedding. Rain is good luck, and if the people love you, they'll catcall your kiss rain or shine. And if they don't fuck 'em.

Step 2: Keep your ceremony short. Recite personal, heartfelt vows, and mean them.

Step 3: Immediately after ceremony, send your guests away to the other side of the park where there is kegs of cold beer and a hundred bottles of cold, inexpensive (but not shitty) wine. Don't tell me there's no such thing. Just get something this side of boones farm and make sure there's plenty. Food should start cooking at this point, so it'll be done and ready to serve the minute you guys get done with your pictures.

Step 4: Take your goddam pictures, and take as long as you like. Find someone who, again, cares about you to take them. Your guests, who are there because they love you, are getting shitfaced. And if they don't love you during the ceremony, they'll sure as shit love you 4 beers in. And if they still don't, fuck 'em.

Step 5: Have fun. I firmly believe that having the very first minute of your marriage be a somber, dull, stiff necked affair is going to set the tone for the rest of that institution. You're making a promise before The Almighty God or Krishna or Allah or the Cold Vastness of Space that during the rest of that tiny ephemeral spark that is our lives you'll love and laugh and labor with that other person...how do you want to spend that time? Dour and lemonfaced or laughing and singing and dancing and loving?

Spend your fucking money on people, not a ring or a building or a dress or a venue.

:lol: It's been a while since you got up on your soapbox.

Our wedding would probably be on my parent's farm so that cost would be taken care of. We'd want lots of good food, lots of good booze and good music. We'd probably also pay for shuttles to kart everyone back to their hotel afterwards, ain't nobody gonna die and fuck up the tone of my wedding day.

[Apoc]

Be cautious. Matt got married in a park and this guy showed up.

[JPolen01]

Ohh man if you can do it on your farm fo free, you are gonna be golden. Venue is the most expensive part of the whole deal. You can spend all your money on food/drinks and a good dj/band.

[.RJ]

Well, are you going to have a moonbounce? I would totally want one of those, right next to the bar.

[JustinG]

I just lol'd.....I shouldnt be looking at MM during a meeting. Damnit Justin you know better.....