05-03-2007, 12:18 PM
So I'm having a bit of a cold war with a family member. This person thought I was disrespectful in an off-the-cuff comment I made in jest (me, say something inappropriate? no chance!). It wasn't crude or anything, it was just "You suck" in response to a complaint of "This sucks" about something a bunch of us was watching on TV.
After the fact I explained that I said it in jest and that it shouldn't be taken seriously. Thinking it was over I'd forgotten the incident until today, when the person in question told me they are still owed an apology... as I found out today. I don't really feel sorry for saying it, but I do feel bad that I hurt the persons feelings.
Maybe it's just a shell game but I have a problem with apologizing for something I don't feel sorry for doing. I could say I'm sorry they took it the wrong way but that's kinda like saying "I'm sorry you're so sensitive, grow some balls." The thing is, I think they are in fact being too sensitive.
The question is, do I stop being stubborn and just say I'm sorry for the sake of moving on or do I tell them what I really think? The obvious easy answer is just to apologize but I'm curious what others' opinions are.
After the fact I explained that I said it in jest and that it shouldn't be taken seriously. Thinking it was over I'd forgotten the incident until today, when the person in question told me they are still owed an apology... as I found out today. I don't really feel sorry for saying it, but I do feel bad that I hurt the persons feelings.
Maybe it's just a shell game but I have a problem with apologizing for something I don't feel sorry for doing. I could say I'm sorry they took it the wrong way but that's kinda like saying "I'm sorry you're so sensitive, grow some balls." The thing is, I think they are in fact being too sensitive.
The question is, do I stop being stubborn and just say I'm sorry for the sake of moving on or do I tell them what I really think? The obvious easy answer is just to apologize but I'm curious what others' opinions are.
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"Here, at last, is the cure for texting while driving. The millions of deaths which occur every year due to the iPhone’s ability to stream the Kim K/Ray-J video in 4G could all be avoided, every last one of them, if the government issued everyone a Seventies 911 and made sure they always left the house five minutes later than they’d wanted to. It would help if it could be made to rain as well. Full attention on the road. Guaranteed." -Jack Baruth