So for the second time in my life my parents are not letting me drive their cars, and for once I actually didnt do anything.
Last night my friends and I went to a party in ashburn, which I drove all of us to. One of my friends brought a six pack of beer to drink until the keg got there, which he didnt want to bring in to the party all at once, because he didnt "want to be the first person walking in with alcohol at the party." So instead of just bringing it in, he decided to take one in, drink it, and get another from my trunk.
Well today Im watching college basketball with my dad when he says that he knows I was drinking and driving last night. When I heard this I completely denied it, because I was sure, for a fact, that neither me nor any of my friends were drinking in my car last night. I infact was barely even at the party, and ended up driving arround with a few of my friends the whole night (allowing one of my friends to try stick for the first time in her life), having decided earlier that I wasnt going to drink period since I was driving. At the time I didn't even remember about my friend who had brought the alcohol into my car, so when asked if I'd like to see the bottles I said yes. So I walk out to the garage and low and behold I see an empty 6 pack of MGD bottles. My dumbfuck friend decided to leave the alcohol in my car, even after people had brought lots of other kinds of liquor/beer in. At this point I remember that he had brought it in, and despite his stupidity, he had not drunk until in the party. Of course I try to tell my dad this but he doesn't believe me one bit, seeing as I so adamently denied that any of my friends/I had alcohol in the car, or driven drunk.
The funny thing is that yesterday night while I was letting one of my friends try and drive stick on a small neighborhood road we got pulled over. The officer asked my friend to get out of the car, under suspicion of drunk driving (not knowing that all along she just was trying to learn how to drive stick). The officer was really nice, saw that we wernt lying, and let us off, just reminding us that 12 at night isnt the best time to be learning stick.
So, in conclusion, I drive my friends to a party, get pulled over under suspicion of drunk driving, get let off, and then lose any abillity to drive my parents car for, I believe the next year, because my dad "isnt stupid, and knows what I was really doing."
2008 Mazda 3
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damnit458 Wrote:So, in conclusion, I drive my friends to a party, get pulled over under suspicion of drunk driving, get let off, and then lose any abillity to drive my parents car for, I believe the next year, because my dad "isnt stupid, and knows what I was really doing."
My reply would be, "Do you think I'm stupid? I'm going to be driving and drinking a 6 pack at the same time? That doesn't make any sense." But I imagine its probably going to be a tough sell 
Damn.
(09-25-2019, 03:18 PM)V1GiLaNtE Wrote: I think you need to see a mental health professional.
I guess I just hafta work harder to get my own car now. What makes this even worse is the fact that I had finally talked my mom into speaking to my dad about maybe covering insurance for me while I pay for my own car, and then letting me pick it up. Guess thats all gone to hell to...
2008 Mazda 3
Tough luck man, why not have your friend explain it to your dad?
Why do people just post what they are thinking? Without thinking.
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I don't understand how the MGD was empty, did he take one of the 5 into the party and leave the rest in your trunk>?
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and that is exactly the kind of reason i bought my own car.
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ViPER1313 Wrote:Tough luck man, why not have your friend explain it to your dad?
my friend wouldnt. He wouldnt admit he was drinking to an adult.
Feersty, there was only the MGD box left, he took all 6 bottles out but left the box.
2008 Mazda 3
Let me see if I can get this straight.
1) You borrow dad's car
2) You pick up your ***MINOR*** friends
3) You allow them to bring alcohol into the vehicle
4) You DRIVE ***MINOR's*** around w/ alcohol in YOUR DADs car which you are driving
5) You LIE to your dad about being around alcohol (yours or otherwise)
6) You wonder why they say you can't drive THEIR car anymore.
Do you have any idea what would have happened if you had gotten pulled over and the cop saw a 6 pack in the back seat and a few minors? If you don't your dad does, ask him. So goto him, tell him how you fucked up, how you wern't thinking and you are sorry for lying to him (That's probably what pissed him off the most). Ask him how he delt with the same situations when he was your age (guarentee he did the same shit).
Just be honest with your parents, one thing I've learned over the years, it doesn't matter what you do, they WILL help you out, just realize they are your friend and don't lie to them.
good luck,
--chad
wow.
Every time my parents ever tried to pull shit like that, I just looked them in the eye and asked them if they thought I was stupid. They knew that I hadn't and they were just testing me to make sure they could still trust me.
white_2kgt Wrote:Let me see if I can get this straight.
1) You borrow dad's car
2) You pick up your ***MINOR*** friends
3) You allow them to bring alcohol into the vehicle
4) You DRIVE ***MINOR's*** around w/ alcohol in YOUR DADs car which you are driving
5) You LIE to your dad about being around alcohol (yours or otherwise)
6) You wonder why they say you can't drive THEIR car anymore.
--chad
As angry as I am after reading your post, I wont argue with you. I did allow my minor friends to bring alcohol into the car. I did drive them arround, and I did lie to my dad (although Im not that ashamed of lieing to him since I could not even remember at the time that I had let my friend do that).
The above is given. However, I DID come clean and tell him the truth, as I stated in my first post. I did allow my friends to bring alcohol into my car, because they would have driven and drank anyway if I hadnt. I have not yet, and will not regret driving them, despite the consequences or how fucking angry I am at them, because I'd much rather them drive with me and drink rather than driving themselves and drinking, which they are both known to do.
Im not going to sit there and turn a blind eye to fact that kids my age drink and drive when I know ill be sober for the evening. I was careless and got penalized for it. If the consequences are that I not drive till I get a car then so be it. I have yet to piss and moan about this, and I wont. But I stick by what I did, and would do it again anyday.
Oh, and btw chad, as I said before my dad still didnt believe me after I told him the truth. My dad has no faith in me, especially when it comes to cars, because of my past history. HOWEVER, i have never been in any situation that has implicated me to him for driving drunk, so I find it offensive that he immediately stops listening to me after I try and tell him what really happened.
2008 Mazda 3
You made a mistake, you paid the price. Chad is right...and so is your dad.
Live and learn, and in the future don't get caught.
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Sorry dude I'm gonna have to side with Chad on this one. It's a sucky situation, but, you messed up, lied, got caught, and now suffer the consequences. As you said they already don't trust you cause of something you did in the past, so you should be completely honest in situations such as this if you ever want to regain their trust. Once you move out and are supporting yourself you can lie to your hearts content to your parents if you so choose, until then you should be as honest as possible with them in order to make your life easier.
I'm not gonna sit here and be all preachy and say that I never did stuff I shouldn't have when I was younger, but I was always honest with my parents if and when confronted about it.
Oh and Mike, owning your own car doesn't mean that while living with your parents you can't get those driving privledges revoked. I've owned my own car and paid my own insurance since I was 17 and had my ability to drive taken a couple times. Of course you have to have a hardass parent like mine who would say "yeah that car's yours, but unless you want to start living in it you won't be driving it until I say so".
damnit458 Wrote:white_2kgt Wrote:Let me see if I can get this straight.
1) You borrow dad's car
2) You pick up your ***MINOR*** friends
3) You allow them to bring alcohol into the vehicle
4) You DRIVE ***MINOR's*** around w/ alcohol in YOUR DADs car which you are driving
5) You LIE to your dad about being around alcohol (yours or otherwise)
6) You wonder why they say you can't drive THEIR car anymore.
--chad
As angry as I am after reading your post, I wont argue with you. I did allow my minor friends to bring alcohol into the car. I did drive them arround, and I did lie to my dad (although Im not that ashamed of lieing to him since I could not even remember at the time that I had let my friend do that).
The above is given. However, I DID come clean and tell him the truth, as I stated in my first post. I did allow my friends to bring alcohol into my car, because they would have driven and drank anyway if I hadnt. I have not yet, and will not regret driving them, despite the consequences or how fucking angry I am at them, because I'd much rather them drive with me and drink rather than driving themselves and drinking, which they are both known to do.
Im not going to sit there and turn a blind eye to fact that kids my age drink and drive when I know ill be sober for the evening. I was careless and got penalized for it. If the consequences are that I not drive till I get a car then so be it. I have yet to piss and moan about this, and I wont. But I stick by what I did, and would do it again anyday.
Oh, and btw chad, as I said before my dad still didnt believe me after I told him the truth. My dad has no faith in me, especially when it comes to cars, because of my past history. HOWEVER, i have never been in any situation that has implicated me to him for driving drunk, so I find it offensive that he immediately stops listening to me after I try and tell him what really happened.
Well, you have those choices but at some point you have to decide how deep your want to get in with your friends. Sure it is alcohol today, what if it is pot next week, and coke the next month? I'm sure your dad understands that you were looking out for your friends but he also doesn't want you to get dragged down with them. At some point you need to tell your 'friends' to cut the crap out and grow up and be responsible for themselves. You are not their babysitter. Next time they want to pull this tell them not to, explain to them how you don't want to get in trouble anymore. If they are real friends they will understand, if they are not, then let them go on their own. Getting busted for underage drinking/driving/possession won't look good on your record for year, getting busted for illegal drugs will mess you up for even longer. This is where your dad is coming from.
--chad
white_2kgt Wrote:Sure it is alcohol today, what if it is pot next week, and coke the next month?
lol, are you kidding me?
(09-25-2019, 03:18 PM)V1GiLaNtE Wrote: I think you need to see a mental health professional.
.RJ Wrote:white_2kgt Wrote:Sure it is alcohol today, what if it is pot next week, and coke the next month?
lol, are you kidding me?
lol I can just imagine waking up to my dad saying he found an 8-ball in the back seat... 
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.RJ Wrote:white_2kgt Wrote:Sure it is alcohol today, what if it is pot next week, and coke the next month?
lol, are you kidding me? No, he's dead serious, and 100% correct. How many times did I cart my drunken friends around in High School and College. Just cause I decided not to touch alcohol till I turned 21, and never to touch drugs they all expected me to be their DD chauffeur. I did it for the longest time because I didn't want them out on the road drunk or high, and I thought I was being a good friend. Finally I got fed up with it and told my friends to go screw themselves and to be responsible for themselves. None of them have died, none of them have hurt anyone, a few have gotten in accidents and suffered the consequences of their actions.
The only person you can and should be responsible for is yourself (unless you're one of those people that are already dead . . . married).
.RJ Wrote:white_2kgt Wrote:Sure it is alcohol today, what if it is pot next week, and coke the next month?
lol, are you kidding me?
What? Don't think it can happen? Someone needs to pop that bubble you are living in if that's the case.
--chad
white_2kgt Wrote:.RJ Wrote:white_2kgt Wrote:Sure it is alcohol today, what if it is pot next week, and coke the next month?
lol, are you kidding me?
What? Don't think it can happen? Someone needs to pop that bubble you are living in if that's the case.
--chad Exactly, hell Ryan, take a look at my family, prime examples of this.
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