The WANT Thread

[SlimKlim]

If you guys are following the tradition (Wife's parent pay for wedding, Groom's parents cover rehearsal)......its a conversation you and her need to have with her parents, that will set some guidelines real fast.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Even if her parents had money they certainly wouldn't spend it to marry their beautiful daughter off to a filthy atheist sinner like me. Her dad won't even walk her down the aisle if she doesn't marry a fundamentalist Christian. My reputation with them is already in the shitter because we live together in unwed sin. My dad will probably help out, but I'd expect only a little, he's not just sitting around on mad money to give me when I tie the knot as far as I know. The vast majority of the costs will be on us.

On the engagement ring discussion....

Am I the only one who actually looked forward to buying an engagement ring so I could propose to my future wife and didn't think twice about spending that kind of money? I actually wish I could have afforded more.

Set a realistic cost goal, determine what payments you can make if financing, and buy the best thing you can afford.

Most of the bitching about buying engagement rings is coming from people who aren't married though so I will assume ignorance.

Same deal with wedding's being a waste of money.....you only do it once, so why not ball out within you means?

Im not stressing about the cost (well, much) I have a budget in mind that I'm comfortable spending and I'm gonna get the best rock I can for the money. I just don't want to finance it because I need another monthly payment like I need a hole in the head, so I'm gonna wait until I can plop down the cash.

The wedding thing, I'd just rather put that money towards a honeymoon/house downpayment. I know it will be an amazing day and a really memorable experience for the family (maybe memorable in the wrong way for certain members) but it's just painful to think about spending five-figures on ONE DAY.