11-26-2007, 10:45 AM
(yes I'm quoting out of order)
I'd rather go out having enjoyed things, instead of enclosing myself in a what-if safety bubble, but thats just me. I'm not saying thats what you're doing - just my view on the matter.
I hate to point on the obvious, but having two kids imposes a gigantic burden on one's life - more than any other change - I dont feel like I need to make a list of them. Does your mom say the same thing about your sister going to an expensive private school, that its a burden that the family has to pay for the education? You cant have kids and expect them to leave the house and be totally self sufficient as soon as they can drive. See below about motivations...
Does your mom dislike the motorcycle riding because its high risk? Or because she doesnt like motorcycles/motorcyclists/etc? Thats an important distinction - because if she wouldnt feel that it was a burden to care for you if you got hurt doing some other high risk activity (say, you enjoyed skydiving instead of riding) then I'd say that her motivations arent very clear.
I think that fact that they're willing to take care of you IF there was some sort of accident that required someone to care for you makes me believe that her objections to motorcycles arent as big as she makes it sound.
Its pretty clear that my mom hates motorcycles, among many other things I do because thats what my dad is/was into - I dont worry about her objections too much.
asteele2 Wrote:what would we do if he were a Veg, or killed?
I'd rather go out having enjoyed things, instead of enclosing myself in a what-if safety bubble, but thats just me. I'm not saying thats what you're doing - just my view on the matter.
asteele2 Wrote:The disapproving party is asking me to avoid a documentedly high-risk activity because of the burden it could impose on her
I hate to point on the obvious, but having two kids imposes a gigantic burden on one's life - more than any other change - I dont feel like I need to make a list of them. Does your mom say the same thing about your sister going to an expensive private school, that its a burden that the family has to pay for the education? You cant have kids and expect them to leave the house and be totally self sufficient as soon as they can drive. See below about motivations...
asteele2 Wrote:When the only person capable of taking care of me has a very strong opinion against the hobby, that's something I've got to seriously consider.
Does your mom dislike the motorcycle riding because its high risk? Or because she doesnt like motorcycles/motorcyclists/etc? Thats an important distinction - because if she wouldnt feel that it was a burden to care for you if you got hurt doing some other high risk activity (say, you enjoyed skydiving instead of riding) then I'd say that her motivations arent very clear.
I think that fact that they're willing to take care of you IF there was some sort of accident that required someone to care for you makes me believe that her objections to motorcycles arent as big as she makes it sound.
Its pretty clear that my mom hates motorcycles, among many other things I do because thats what my dad is/was into - I dont worry about her objections too much.